I see this similarity between school/tests and dating/physical attractiveness. Many say the most important thing when dating is the other’s personality, but we all know physical attractiveness plays a huge role and sometimes the biggest factor on choosing a date. Furthermore, in school we are all told to behave kindly and read books and learn history about courageous ground breaking leaders, but then are given tests that test none of these sort of characteristics and can hardly identify/represent who the individuals are. (Note: I am not to say tests should evaluate these things)
Anyway, what I’m saying is you’re face will be clear and your waist only so small for so long but during that time of beauty it might get you places. Just like grades and standardized tests that look amazing on applications and really are a great thing to have and for a while will get you pretty far. But both of those things, beauty and grades, will only get you SO far (The world isn’t one big multiple choice test after all) and it is really up to you to take it to the next level.
However, unlike looks and tests your personality(ideally) will always be there. Those qualities you weren’t tested on- creativity, resilience, motivation, leadership, compassion, curiosity, empathy, courage, wanderlust, persistence, humor, question asking and much more- they’ll always be there inside you also. So sometimes it is good to step back and breath and realize there is more than just things out there that “look good.” You just have to dig for them.
We will never all be on the same page, and many times we are not even in the same book, but what matters is that we read what suits us, respect what others choose to read, and learn to peacefully share the library.
It’s not socially acceptable to kill yourself, but yet it is socially acceptable to push a person until the point of suicide? It’s okay to kick a person down and it’s okay to say it was selfish for the battered person to kill himself? He should have just toughed it out right? No. None of this is okay. Recognize the cycle and make a change before it repeats.
On Friday, January 28, 2012 the most famous “settlement house” in the United States closed its doors. Hull House, founded by Jane Addams and Ellen Gates Starr in 1889*, was a social service agency with a broad reach in the city of Chicago. Hull House offered services for men, women, and children - often newly arrived immigrants - and provided a broad array of programs and education. At one point “Hull House” covered thirteen blocks and “included a gymnasium, theater, art gallery, music school, boys’ club, auditorium, cafeteria, cooperative residence for working women, kindergarten, nursery, libraries, post office, meeting and club rooms, art studios, kitchen, and a dining room and apartments for the residential staff.” (from The Encyclopedia of Chicago)
Addams and Starr also used Hull House as a center for local and national political reform dealing with such issues as sanitation, prison reform, child labor, women’s suffrage, and unemployment benefits. Addams ran Hull House until her death in 1935. (In 1931 Addams became the first American woman to win the Nobel Peace Prize for her work with the Women’s International League of Peace and Freedom.)
Hull House closed due to a lack of funds. Although scheduled to close in March, the economic strain forced the organization to shut down two months early. There are several questions as to how insolvency occurred so quickly and with relatively little warning. (Read an article on the topic here.)
Hull House was 122 years old.
(Postcard courtesy of chicagopc.info)
* Hull House was named for its original owner, Charles Hull, who gave it to his niece Helen Culver. Culver leased it to Addams and Starr.
Charity, goodwill, and activism is not just simply giving a few bucks and shipping it across the world. It is getting up and realizing that sometimes and actually most of the time the place that needs the most help is right there and here where you live.
Treating someone like shit constantly and then saying I love you when confronted about it is the equivalent to saying sorry for something you have done wrong but still keep doing it over and over again. It is all the same load of crap.